I’m going to take a risk by being vulnerable and transparent with this post. Even as I write this, I am thinking to myself, “What will people think”? “I’m a business owner, I can’t admit my faults and weaknesses because it could reflect poorly on my business and my abilities.” “Why should I share this with the world when I could write about something safe”. Well, here goes…Read More
Thankful Thursday – Unexpected Moments of Awe
Monday evening, sitting on the couch finally unwinding from a hellish few days with very sick twin 3 year-olds, feeling a bit lousy myself, a text popped up on my phone. Upon opening it, my breath completely left my body. Aunt Diane, my father’s youngest sister (youngest of 9 total!) had found a photo of my father at age 6 or 7 that she thought I’d enjoy. I knew it was my father, of course but I was literally staring at my son Reed’s face just a few short years from now. I was overcome with emotion, tears filled my eyes. I was completely in awe. His sweet expression so comforting to me.Read More
Thankful Thursday - Children “Growing Up”
I became a surrogate when my children were 3 years and 5 years old. After that, in their minds, in order to get pregnant, you had to go to California where doctors put a baby or two in your tummy. That was good enough for them, and me, until last year.
My daughter is now 9 years old. Last year we had “the talk” after she began to ask questions. We read a book together that was very basic and straight to the point. I spared the details for a more mature age but we have maintained an open dialogue about the subject ever since.Read More
My entire life, I’ve often felt like I don’t quite fit in. That folks don’t really “get” me – that I was always lingering on the edges trying to be just like everyone else, to be accepted. Weird, emotional, too serious at times and too silly at other times were things I’ve often heard about myself – especially as a child. Fast forward to trying to start a family with my husband, Wes, living on a US Naval Air Base at the time (where everyone knows everyone’s business) and of course I was again the one on the outside edges, not quite fitting in. Not only was I extremely infertile, I’d also need a gestational surrogate to carry my children – something that most people were completely unfamiliar with. As I’ve gotten older my armor has gotten stronger, I appear fearless to some, but deep down I still have an innate yearning to “fit-in” and here I was – THE most different than everyone around me in my entire life.Read More
This week is National Infertility Awareness Week. Did you know that 1 in 8 couples struggle to start a family? If you didn’t know the statistics were that high, it is because often the couples will hide behind their shame and disappointment and don’t share their experiences publicly. Some couples get so tired of having to tell their excited loved ones that they had another miscarriage or failed transfer that they stop sharing. They attend baby showers and birthday parties wanting to be happy for their friends and family but in reality, it just makes it harder. National Infertility week is all about building awareness about what is going on all around us and even in our own circles. If you haven’t experienced this struggle yourself you may not fully understand, but you don’t have to in order to make a difference- Sometimes being there is enough. By giving someone a safe space to be vulnerable, you are allowing them to open up and share their raw emotions in the safety of your friendship.Read More